Lorelai Is Now Twelve: This Girl Will Be A Woman Soon

As I briefly mentioned in my last post, my oldest daughter Lorelai turned twelve years old this summer. With all the preparations for the Tucson Temple dedication, it was hard for her special day to not get overwhelmed. In fact, because her birthday fell on a Saturday this year, Lorelai had entertained hopes that she'd be able to have her birthday party on her actual birthday. Unfortunately, the timing of the youth cultural celebration made that dream impossible. But even if our celebrations on her birthday weren't that extensive, I think we still made a sufficiently big production out of this milestone age.

 

August 12th was a crazy date for our family this year, as I may have mentioned in my last blog post. However, we still managed to get everybody up at a decent hour and dig into Lorelai's presents.

 

 

Present-wise, we didn't get any big, major items...just a few small things that we knew she'd appreciate...including some nerd gifts, like this Harry Potter T-shirt and this Skyrim necklace!

For a few weeks, Lorelai had been repeatedly asking for "waffles with strawberries & whipped cream" for breakfast. While we all find those foods delicious, it is hard to prepare such an fancy breakfast on a school morning. But I got up early the morning of her birthday and decided to treat her. She was very pleased.

We also lit a candle and sang a song; her "full" birthday cake would come at her party a week later. Sadly, her birthday celebrations with the family had to end at this point in the day; we had to prepare everyone for the temple cultural celebration that was taking place on that very day.

Luckily, our ward's thoughtful Young Women's president brought dozens of beautiful cupcakes to celebrate with the youth of the ward. Lorelai was flattered to be remembered in the midst of all the other important goings-on.

I've already spoken at length about the cultural celebration and the temple dedication. Lorelai had a good time at both those events, but also felt that her birthday was "postponed" a bit due to all those things. We scheduled her birthday party for the following weekend; to say that it was "overplanned" is a bit of an understatement!

Originally, I thought the party would be simple enough; Lorelai wanted a "late-over," with pajamas and everything. Unfortunately, the pajama clause meant none of her male friends would be invited. Then, I thought we could add some fun "Minute To Win It" style challenge games, a movie, a gift exchange, and a dinner to the party. And then I got really ambitious and told Lorelai we would make a "mystery dinner."

A mystery dinner is where you give each guest a menu with everything written in code (including drinks, cups & silverware). Each guest has to fill out their entire order form ahead of time; then, the guests receive their meals one course at a time, with everything they ordered, no matter how badly the items clash (for example, a guest may receive spaghetti, a spoon, and ice cubes for one course; then lemonade, a fork, and pizza for the following course; and so on).

It was an idea that was lots of fun in planning, but very tricky in execution. There were a lot of girls here (twelve girls all around twelve years of age) and they were all very loud. To further complicate things, I was the only adult at home that night...Nathan was out until late in the evening! (In the long run, this was probably best for his sanity; I think he would have lost his patience with Lorelai's birthday crowd). And worst of all, our oven decided to stop working that morning...and, my car was in the shop for repairs that entire morning. It was a horrible confluence of events that left me unable to complete my cooking and unable to travel anywhere to get extra help.

Luckily, I have wonderful helpful friends. My next-door neighbor Jodie let me cook Lorelai's birthday cake and multiple dinner courses in her oven. And Lara, a mother of Lorelai's friend Addison (and a very busy woman in her own right) agreed to come and help serve up dinner for all the girls. Celeste and Aurora were helpful too (they agreed to act as waitresses), but I could not have effectively plated & served so many different, complicated food orders without the help of another adult. Lara left soon after dinner, but I was incredibly grateful for her short time there; it made a big difference to my sanity!

The girls were all laughing and having fun throughout the dinner, and they had more fun afterwards playing the Minute To Win It party games. Theses games were very silly but fun to participate in, from trying to eat a cookie off your forehead (without using your hands!) to target practice with ping-pong balls, to wearing pantyhose with a tennis ball stuffed inside from your head and using that to knock down pre-arranged targets on the floor.

It was absolute madness, but it was enjoyable madness. At least the girls all seemed to be enjoying themselves. After I (finally) managed to calm everybody down, it was time for our "white elephant" gift exchange (where every girl brought an unassigned gift, and each girl took turns picking out of the pile of unmarked presents in the middle.

Lorelai ended up with a few unique presents of her own, including this crutch (!) from her friend Anileah, who has tastes & interests almost as bizarre and inexplicable as my little girl's. Lorelai had been at Anileah's house recently and enjoyed playing with the old crutch. She was genuinely thrilled to be getting it as a present!

 

The only big disappointment for Lorelai regarding this party was that she was sick the day of the party! She had missed school the day before, and was still in recovery mode when everyone showed up. She did her best to be a good sport and still had fun, but I could tell she was very tired; she was glassy-eyed and stared off into the distance for long stretches of time. She was relieved to go to sleep when it was finally all over. We had contemplated moving the party to another day, but weren't sure if it would work, given our busy schedules. All in all, I felt a little bad hosting a party when the birthday girl was sick; hopefully Lorelai won't remember her discomfort, and only the fun, as the years go on.

After the gift exchange, everyone (finally) settled down, and watched the movie Into The Woods, occasionally singing along to the music! I was left trying to clean up the house for the rest of the night; these girls had made quite a mess! Overall, the party was a success, but I discovered this age group is truly exhausting, and I will be totally fine with not having another 12-year-old party for a while! They are big enough to make a lot of noise and have a lot of energy, and not quite mature enough to keep their drama in check. I'm not sure if I will survive being a mother to three teenage daughters.

The party wasn't quite the last part of the birthday celebration, though...Lorelai hit a few milestones at church as well. She was awarded the Faith in God award, for completing the Primary program, and she was officially recognized as a member of the "Beehive" class (twelve- and thirteen-year-old girls) in the Young Women's program. It is so hard to believe that I have a daughter in the church's Young Women's program now. It is a great program and I think she will really enjoy it, but I can't believe she is so mature and grown-up now. We are so proud.

One of the most exciting birthday presents for Lorelai was her first trip to visit the Tucson Temple as a patron. She received her limited-use temple recommend, which means she can now perform temple baptisms. For her first visit, Nathan and I attended with her; we were her "dates."

I can't describe how happy I was on this day. Attending the temple with one of my children was an amazing spiritual experience; I hope this visit will be the first of many for Lorelai, and I hope we can visit with her many more times in the future.

Twelve is an age that brings some big changes in a kid's life. In most places, boys & girls are considered able to babysit outside their homes once they turn twelve (in fact, Lorelai had her first-ever paid babysitting gig just a couple of weeks ago; our friends asked for her help and she did a great job!). It's also the age when kids leave the Primary program in our church and enter the youth program. Many people consider twelve-year-olds "teenagers." I don't think I'm quite ready to make that commitment yet; to my relief, Lorelai doesn't seem to consider herself a teenager yet either. And yet, things have definitely shifted in her life in ways that are subtle and complex.

We are still trying to figure out how to deal with some of those changes in a normal, healthy way. She has definitely been moody, withdrawn, and contrary in recent months; she's also been hard-working, responsible, giddy, and ambitious. It is hard to know how to treat Lorelai sometimes; she seems to change dramatically from day to day. I remember how turbulent early adolescence can be; I am afraid for her almost constantly sometimes. I remember being very lonely, scared, and depressed at times. Lorelai sometimes shows signs of feeling that way, but more often she has been in the ironic position of comforting me. She is sure to tell me she loves me frequently, and lets me know that she "has a good life," as she puts it. I am humbled by her desire to cheer me up; I can't believe I have a kid with such a level head. I hope she will keep it as she heads ever closer to adulthood, and I hope I can teach her everything she needs to know, and help her in whatever she needs.

The End of Summer 2017 And (A Little Bit) Beyond

After returning from the Nash family reunion in Vernal, there wasn't much summer vacation left; just two weeks! Our charter school starts earlier than just about everyone else (July 24th or thereabouts), and there was a lot to get done after we arrived back in Tucson. Some of it was dull & boring (school supply shopping, yuck!), some of it was pretty fun! Here's a rundown of some of the more memorable things we experienced in late July/early August.

Nathan and I went on not just one, but TWO date nights with other adults!!

This is in bold-face because this so rarely happens anymore.  When we are lucky, we manage to sneak out of the house and pull off a quick date with just the two of us. We still have a decent number of friends living in the area, but we are all getting so busy with work, kids, church, and life in general that our socializing has been reduced significantly...especially during the school year, when all the kids' extracurriculars are in full swing.

Imagine our happiness, then, when the Savoies (some old friends from another ward) invited us to attend an "escape the room" date in Tucson, just one week after we returned home from vacation. We had been through a different escape room last year, but we really enjoyed it and were excited to try it out.

We ate a delicious dinner beforehand with our fellow "escapees" at the Brushfire BBQ, and then headed over to the Escape Room. Right from the start, I enjoyed this escape room better than our previous adventure. Why? Because this room was pirate-themed!

Rather than simply "escape" the locked room, our team had to unlock the pirate's "chest" and "steal" it. It was fun to have a different objective other than "find the key and get out." The decor was lots of fun, and there were some truly clever tricks involved in this room. For example, the eight of us started out in a very small room, with a large wardrobe taking up the bulk of the space. We reasoned that opening the wardrobe would be a key step in progressing towards our ultimate goal. When we finally got the doors open (hint: it involved magnets), the inside revealed: a secret passageway into another room, with a half-dozen more puzzles to solve inside! It was really cool.

In the end, our group managed to open up the treasure chest with about seven minutes to spare. We were pretty proud of ourselves! In our previous escape room, Nathan and I had been attempting to catch an international jewel thief. There were a lot of number- & geography-related puzzles to solve in that room. In this pirate-themed room, there were more riddles, anagrams, mirrors, and magnets; there were a greater variety of puzzles and it was great fun. We were so glad we got to go!

Just one week later, we went out with a different couple...some friends of ours from our ward (I teach her children piano, and she gives my two oldest daughters voice lessons. It's been a good trade so far!). We had mentioned to them once that we would like to try sushi...and so when they invited us our for a sushi dinner as a birthday date, we were excited to go along! The Hibberds have a lot more experience eating sushi than us, so Nathan and I were relieved to have some relative "experts" to help us pick some tastier choices.

Mmm...Beet sushi! Baby squid sushi! Eel sushi!

 

We both went more "exotic" than I think we were expecting, but we had a lot of fun trying everything out...even the stuff that we decided we didn't like. It was fun to do something different for dinner! Hopefully we will get a chance to go out for sushi again sometime.

The girls completed all their summer "extras."

Throughout the summer, our girls had each had their own "special" activity. As the girls have gotten older, and as they are slowly transitioning into teenagers, it is getting harder to figure out how to keep them entertained in the summer. Example: I signed all three girls up for swim lessons offered at our local pool by the Tucson YMCA. The lessons were free: Hooray, I thought! Well, it turns out you get what you pay for. The instruction offered was on the extreme end of basic; each of my girls already knew all of that stuff. To make matters worse, they inexplicably put Aurora in the more advanced class, and Lorelai and Celeste in the intermediate class! My older girls were offended and bored, and even Aurora thought there wasn't enough to do at these lessons. I guess next summer, if I want my girl's swimming to improve, I will put them on the local swim team (unlikely; too expensive) or sign them up for private lessons (more likely; we'll see what our schedule allows).

Despite this hiccup, we had some better luck with our other summer "extracurriculars." Lorelai at first asked to participate in a basketball camp; unfortunately, our budget and the timing of our family vacation didn't really allow her to participate. Instead, we tried something in the summer that we'd never done before...we gave Lorelai private trombone lessons! Of course, she has been taking private piano lessons from me for years now. However, she does love her trombone, and she's asked me for lessons before.

I was able to get in touch with Sammie, a former band-mate of Lorelai's from Great Expectations Academy. These days, Sammie is in high school, participating in marching band and playing first trombone in the jazz band as well. Lorelai always looked up to Sammie (as she should; Sammie is a sweet girl and an excellent trombonist!); and I decided it might be nice if the two of them could have "jam sessions" once a week! Sammie (and her mother) jumped at the chance for Sammie to be a music teacher for the summer. I paid for the lessons (not a ton of money, but hopefully a nice sum for a high-school student), and the two had a lot of fun together.

Sadly, I don't have any photographs to commemorate these lessons, but they were a nice opportunity for both girls and Lorelai really enjoyed herself. It was a good opportunity for Lorelai to see what sorts of things she would have to work on in her performance before entering high school. She got several pages of scales, exercises, & technique builders from Sammie that she worked on diligently through the summer. Besides that, she also got the chance to "goof off" with her instrument a bit; the two of them practiced improvising back & forth with each other and they enjoyed that. When the school year began again, I noticed a significant improvement in Lorelai's playing ability. Maybe it was my imagination somewhat...but I think if nothing else came out of of these lessons, they were a confidence booster for Lorelai going into seventh grade. I think that when the time comes for her to try out for jazz band in high school, she will be ready!

There was one more major activity that Lorelai was involved in this summer...

...Girl's Camp! It is a yearly event for all girls in the LDS Church (plus any of their friends who want to come along!), aged 12-18. The girls travel several hours from home and spend most of the week doing all sorts of things: outdoor activities; faith-promoting experiences; spiritual strength building; sports; music; crafts; or just plain goofing off. It is a highlight of the year for many girls, and Lorelai had been looking forward to her first year of camp for a long time.

The girls in our ward are expected to do their own fund-raising in order to attend camp, and last spring, Lorelai baked over a dozen pies to be delivered on "Pi(e) Day" (March 14, or 3/14, for you math nerds).  I helped her make the pies, of course; that is quite a workload for any one person, let alone an 11-year-old!

We ended up with fourteen pies altogether: three mixed-berry pies (my personal favorite); five apple pies, of two different types; a cherry pie; two chocolate-cream pies; and two Virginia Peanut Pies (Think a pecan pie made with peanuts instead! It was sweet and salty, and pretty tasty). We kept one of the peanut pies for ourselves, and made a "grasshopper pie" (chocolate mint)...because there was no way we weren't having pies for our own family on Pi(e) Day!

The girls from our ward, getting ready to head out to camp

Thanks to Lorelai's hard work in March, she managed to pay off her entire fee for Girl's Camp four months before camp! I was very proud. After that, the hardest part for her was waiting to go to camp! We had a busy summer, so it was still a little hard to believe my eyes when she was goofing off with her friends that first morning, waiting to board the van. It didn't feel real to me that my daughter was heading off to Girl's Camp...that's something that teenagers do, not my "little" girls!

Of course, Lorelai has been off on overnight activities several times before this; as a member of jazz band, she has traveled as far as California without me. But on those occasions, she still had cell phone access, and was still able to contact me frequently. Not hearing from her for five days was disorienting and a little worrisome. However, she had a wonderful time...and some merciful parents who'd gone along to Girl's Camp posted a few pictures on social media, so I knew she was alive and well.

Lorelai hasn't shared a whole lot with me, but I gathered that she had a very nice time at camp. She made a few crafts, went boating, got to rappel down a rock face, attended a few devotionals, participated in a gift exchange, and even went on the traditional "snipe hunt" that has been a Girl's Camp tradition since I was a girl myself. She enjoyed every minute, and had a few spiritual experiences that I suspect strengthened her testimony (of course, she will never tell me about them, because she's often close-mouthed about such things).

Girl's Camp took place outside Alpine, Arizona; it's a city up in the northeastern part of the state (in the White Mountains). The girls were frequently rained on and got a little chilly at night. When Lorelai arrived back in hot, sweaty Sahuarita, it was obvious she needed a shower! But she looked very happy to be home, and happy with her experience. I sincerely hope her next Girl's Camp is equally memorable.

But Lorelai wasn't the only daughter in our household with extra activities this summer: Celeste & Aurora got to attend a sewing camp, and make a few items!

I am one of the world's worst sewers. I can reattach buttons, and that's about it. Luckily, our neighbor Trista (the same lady who currently gives Lorelai & Celeste voice lessons!) is an excellent seamstress, and she offered a weekly "sewing camp" to interested grade-school kids this summer. I was happy for them to have the opportunity; at least they would be taught by someone with better knowledge than myself! Each week for about an hour, the girls would head over to Trista's house, and she would instruct them on basic sewing tools, use & care of a sewing machine, and stitching techniques.

By the end of the summer, they had both each made a pair of pants, and a handbag! They picked out their own fabrics, so each item had their own sense of (interesting) style. It was awesome! I am really happy they had this opportunity. I don't know if it's something they would ever want to do again, but I'm glad they got to try sewing out this once. Now if only I could follow up with them and help them expand on what they've learned! Sadly, that may not happen. Maybe I need to send them to Grandma's house next!

I had a few home projects too...and one project (literally) fell to earth.

Even though there wasn't a lot of time left in the summer, I still found time to get my homemaker on. For a while now, I have been wanting to repaint the white walls in each of the girls' bedrooms Originally, we painted all the walls of each bedroom but one, leaving one wall white as a contrast. However, the paint on that white wall was the flat, unattractive matte paint left behind by the original sellers. As a result, a lot of ugly smears & smudges had appeared on the walls over the years. I determined to buy some better white paint and cover up the mess. Besides the bedroom walls, I also decided I had enough paint to do one additional wall in our main loft area upstairs. I guess after painting the stairwell in the spring, my house-painting "itch" still needed some scratching.

It took me several weeks to get all the walls done.; I did Lorelai's room while she was away at Girl's Camp, and I had to wait until school started to take care of the other girls' rooms. When I was all finished, the walls didn't look especially different or flashy (it was more white paint, after all). However, they definitely looked cleaner, so I was satisfied. Now, most of our house has been painted the colors we want! All that remains is our upstairs loft & hallway. Here's hoping we can complete it before moving out!

As I was trying to complete this home improvement project, another, much more unwelcome home project reared its ugly head. We were sitting inside one rainy night, when we heard a sickening, wet thud come from outside. We peeked out and saw this:

A very rainy monsoon season, combined with the weakened wood inside our backyard balcony, meant that the materials had rotted through and lost all structural integrity in the rain. Sheetrock and particle board alike gave way and fell to the ground; for the rest of the summer, a steady stream of water poured through the hole during each storm.

It was very disheartening for us to see the damage. Nathan and I had known that the balcony was in bad shape and needed repair, but we had hoped to put it off for another year or so. In a year when we have had so many appliance & car repairs, as well as getting our home exterior painted, it has been scary and disheartening trying to calculate the costs of this repair. In fact, we still haven't finshed the job...although our family has had many offers of help so far. I'll share more on this later, once things are more settled.

Losing our balcony made me depressed...and like many women, when I am depressed I bake. Luckily we had a lot of fresh produce to work with this summer...

I found a recipe for Lemon Zucchini Bread, and it was so incredibly delicious I literally couldn't stop making it for a couple of weeks. I delivered loaves to many of my friends. I sent several of them up to Girl's Camp. I may have eaten a few myself! Soooo good!

I also ordered a huge crate of plums from Bountiful Baskets; I don't do as much home canning as I would like these days, but I was in a "plum" mood this summer, so I tried out a bunch of things:

I canned some halved plums to start things out; I've done that a few times before. I also froze a bag or two of plums, to use for later. But then I tried some slightly more exotic items. I made a whole bunch of plum jam, which looked and tasted delicious. Finally, I canned a few jars of spicy Asian plum sauce; it's excellent on chicken, duck, and pork. We had a little extra sauce left over after canning, and I dipped some egg rolls into it. Fantastic! It was fun to try a few new things.

I also made some plum cobbler. Yum!

Best of the rest!

When Lorelai was at Girl's Camp, Celeste & Aurora had a great time. They missed their sister, but they also had fun having the house to "themselves." We took a trip to the Tucson Children's Museum, a place Lorelai is getting a bit tired of, and they had a terrific time.

And, of course, our beautiful Coco was surviving the summer as best she could indoors.

Coco is a very active dog, and being cooped up inside all day is difficult for her (especially because she is actually afraid of the sound our air conditioner makes when it turns on! Sigh...our "brave protector" she is not.). We tried to get her some extra toys to play with...

And when it started to cool off in the evenings, we would take Coco to the local dog park, and watch her run off all her energy. Coco is a very fast dog, and we love watching her fly across the grass and play with other dogs. We are happy to have a place like this in our neighborhood.

And just like that...

School began! Lorelai got home from Girl's Camp on a Friday; our first day of school was the following Monday. Yikes! Every year our summers seem shorter. I will blog more about school another time, though...for now, I'll close the blog post with the end of summer. It was a lot of fun, and over a little too soon.